The Human Side

Making Decisions Work For You

Posted by on Aug 21, 2017 in Career, Productivity, The Human Side | 0 comments

Making Decisions Work For You

I hugged good bye a very close friend who is moving several states away. She is uprooting her teenage children and taking on a challenging new position in a new city. What that also means is that she will be temporarily separated from her husband, leaving a job she loves, and a community she has spent decades in. And while that decision to some sounds excruciating, she is very happy!

I know so many people who would be asking themselves repeatedly if they had made the right decision. Was there a truly “right” decision to make?

Many decisions in life are not about choosing the right option, but instead, making sure that the option chosen works out for the best due to focus and diligence.

If she had turned down the job, something any reasonable person could have done, then continuing in her current job with no regrets would have been a positive way to move forward. But she chose to move. She has found a place to live, toured the schools with her girls so that they could make choices on education, has prioritized what to finish up in her current job – and she is doing so with a smile on her face and a view to the opportunity in front of her.

Decision-making is important. But many outcomes are negative not because the decision was wrong, but because we didn’t do our best to ensure that it worked out in our favor. Making the decision is the first step. Everything you do afterwards is what matters.

If your organization decides to upgrade to new software, that’s great. But you might as well have stuck with the outdated version if the organization doesn’t provide resources to learn and opportunity to practice.

You might decide that investing $25 a month in a gym membership is a good decision, but not if you don’t show up.

You might anguish over a decision of which house to buy. But once you decide, start making it your home. There is so much opportunity now that the decision is made!

Making the decision is not the end point. Being deliberate in making it a good choice is.

What decisions have you made that were amazing because of your own efforts following the decision?

 

Update: I just spoke to the friend mentioned at the start of this post. She and her family are doing great! Most would say it is because she made a good decision. I say it’s because she made a decision good.

 

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Gratitude and Appreciation for Valentine’s Day

Posted by on Feb 11, 2016 in The Human Side | 7 comments

Gratitude and Appreciation for Valentine’s Day

Gratitude left unexpressed leaves people feeling unappreciated.

There are some holidays that can be harder than others because of expectations about what they mean. Valentine’s Day can be one of those days because for many (myself included) there is no romantic partner to present flowers, go to dinner with, or give the beautiful piece of jewelry. Within those gifts however, is really more than just romantic love. There is a grounding in what that person has brought to your life. And, there are many people that we have that same grounding with, even if it does not manifest itself in romantic love.

If you struggle with Valentine’s Day, perhaps the best thing to do is to acknowledge that gratitude and express your appreciation for those people who have demonstrated love and care to you, who have made your life more perfect by their part in it. There is also an opportunity to appreciate those people who share their own version of love everyday with those who often are undervalued.

I met with a group of leaders from one of my clients this week, and in speaking to them about their work, I found myself getting emotional. I had tears in my eyes as I left the office. They are not the only clients I am grateful for. Yes, part of my gratitude is based in their faith in me to help them to build their own capacity. But it is mostly because of the work that they choose to do. Their commitment to the missions of their agencies, their willingness to work with people who many others have no appreciation for, their willingness to embrace those with substance abuse issues, mental illness, disabilities, or those in poverty inspires me and gives me faith in human kind.

So – to all my clients and those in the non-profit community, thank you for adding hope to the hopeless, joy to those who experience mostly sadness, skills where there are gaps, options where none are seen, systems change where there is resistance, wellness where there is illness, efforts where there is a vacuum, beauty where there is blight, and kindness where there is disgust.

I offer this space for you to express your own appreciation to those amazing individuals and organizations who give their own version of love everyday to people who often feel unloved.

Happy Valentine’s Day. Thank you for being you.

Best,

Mary Beth

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Revisiting Emotions

Posted by on Jan 4, 2016 in The Human Side | 0 comments

Revisiting Emotions

Last summer, after watching In and Out with my daughter I wrote a post on LinkedIn about the emotions featured in the movie. I have found myself thinking about emotions this past week and how much that post resonated with people (I had more people comment on that post than just about any other!)

Perhaps it is partly because of the holidays, and how differently people experience them. For many, it is their happy time of the year – the lights, the music, the special time with family – all bring joy to their life. And, other people are dealing with the passing of loved ones, illness, and loneliness, and the holidays only intensify the sadness.

Perhaps it is the political environment, and the use of fear in campaigns, or the level of disgust leveled at the other candidates.

Maybe its the promos for the President’s Town Hall on guns and predicting the anger that will come from that conversation, on both sides.

Whatever it is, it feels like emotions are rather high as 2016 begins.

If you are interested in the original post, visit: Inside Out…In Real Life

If you would like to share your experience of the new year or how emotions are playing a role, I would love to hear from you!

Best,

Mary Beth

P.S. I would be in a happy place if you subscribed to my blog (scroll up and look to the right!) and took a stroll through my new website! Happy New Year!

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